Hiv | Dating With hiv – Overcoming hiv Dating Rejection
No one likes to be rejected, but when the rejection comes after an admission of your AIDS or HIV status then the dismissal is even more hurtful. Dating with HIV or AIDS then becomes something to fear, until your condition has been announced. Therefore sometimes it is easier to just not bother.
Being dumped hurts, there is no denying this. If you did or said something out of order and your partner decides that that is it, then at least you have the chance to make it up to them if possible. Or at the very least, to learn from your mistakes for next time. Being rejected due to your health however, is not something that is rectifiable.
It takes all sorts of people to make the world go round and ignorant people can come in different guises; some of which are not that easy to spot. Hence remember that when dating with HIV or AIDS and after telling your partner of your condition should rejection follow, then your health has stopped you wasting precious time with someone who was not your type anyway. Let us face it; you would never have been happy with a narrow-minded partner anyway. You can do so much better for yourself.
When you really like a person, it does not matter what baggage they carry with them. You do not have to look far to see examples of mixed marriages, ex prisoners finding love, people finding their sole mate after suffering a life changing accident. This is no less true for those who have AIDS or HIV. Real love means accepting the person warts and all!
Dating with HIV and undergoing rejection can result in feelings so strong that people take to hiding away and giving up on love and friendship forever. Protection from further hurt and living a lonely existence seems preferable than the pain felt at rejection.
Obviously when you are told that you are dating someone who has HIV or AIDS it will come as a shock. Any normal person would be full of questions and want to know much more about it. Dating with HIV revealed should not be any different from dating without HIV. It is just one of lives little additions like, cancer, MS, or depression. As long as risks are adequately discussed their feelings if genuine will be no different than from before.
Solid explanations will help build your relationship. Be honest in your conversations and never lie or cover things up. Talk about the things you do to manage your condition and bring up the subject of safer sex. By eliminating any fear your potential partner may have will dramatically increase the chances of your revelation being taken well.
We all want to be loved unconditionally and we all have that right. Never ever let your AIDS or HIV make you feel that you are any different. You are a lovable person with great qualities and anyone would be fortunate to be picked by you as their friend or lover. Hence ensure that the person you pick is also worthy of your love.
Rejection cannot be controlled, that is fine. But just ensure that should you encounter rejection you can control your reaction to it. Use your AIDS or HIV status to give you an advantage and use it to gain realistic evidence about the way others feel for you. Let dating with HIV turn the control tables around.
And finally remember you are a nice person. You have lots to offer in a relationship. Those that cannot deal with your condition are not worthy of your love anyway. Save it for Mr or Mrs Right. Each relationship that ends brings you closer to the one you have been waiting for!
By: Ana W Smith
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This article is contributed by Ana Smith from the HIVMatch Publishing Team. She works together with founders Richard and Nigel and writes dating/relationship articles. You can find more about HIV Dating and HIVMatch by visiting their website and blog.
